When I think of the normal steps in a relationship… there is the initial encounter… then you go on a date… then you are dating… then you are going steady … then you are serious… then you get engaged… then you get married. At least this is how I see it or invision how dating should be. But do we live in an era where there are more steps??
I find people and relationships very interesting. This is mostly why I have this blog. I like to examine why people do the things they do and laugh about the stupid things that I do. So we are taking it back to the New Yorker. Yes, I am still talking to him for all of those who are curious. He is still weird, funny, charming… and a million miles away, though. We initially started talking on Facebook and then we started texting a bunch. And just the other day he told me that he told his friend about me. I asked why. I mean I know that we are very flirty and he has to at least have a small crush on me or maybe I am just being arrogant. BUT nothing has actually happened yet so it is hard to say.
When I asked why, I was definitely putting him on the spot a bit but I wanted to see what he would say. Would he refer to me as a girl he thought was cute? A girl he had a crush on? A girl he wanted to ask out? His answer was simply none of these. He referred to me as “the girl he was texting…..”
Have I gotten myself into another texting relationship? You see I refer to these as relationships only because the entire relationships exists only through texting. I mean yes, he has called me a few times but we text A LOT. Or maybe times are changing and this just a whole new step of dating, because we as a society need instant gratification. If we can’t create a relationship through the quickest form of communication, then do we as a society not want to waste our time on that person? Do we have to win them over through texting before we get a first date? Or even a first hang out? Or maybe things would be entirely different if the New Yorker was in the same area as me but this definitely isn’t the first time where I am like “GAHHHHH!” Call me old fashioned why can’t we just hang out or talk on the phone.
Texting is stupid.